The Pineapple Primer

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The Pineapple Primer

A Beginner's Guide to Swinging and the Lifestyle for Curious Couples

So. You two have been talking. Maybe it started as a joke over wine. Maybe you spotted an upside-down pineapple and fell down a rabbit hole. Either way, hi. You're in good company.

This is the warm, honest, judgment-free guide we wish we'd had: how to have the big talk, set rules that actually work, keep consent front and center, stay safe and discreet, decode the lingo, and handle the feelings that show up (even for the cool ones).

What's inside

  • The Big Talk, plus how to make "no" feel safe
  • Setting your rules, limits, and couple signals
  • Consent, etiquette, and sexual health basics
  • Where to meet people and what your first night out can look like
  • Signals and lingo, IYKYK edition 🍍
  • Jealousy, aftercare, safety, and discretion
  • The "Are We Ready?" quiz, a quick-start checklist, and fill-in-together worksheets

Subtle or loud, just looking or all in: there's no wrong lane here. Plenty of couples read a guide like this and decide it's not for them. That's a win too.

Try it: the 60-second "Are We Ready?" teaser

Each of you answers on your own. No peeking. Score 2 = yes, definitely, 1 = sort of, 0 = not really.

  1. I'm curious about the lifestyle for my own reasons, not just to please my partner.
  2. I don't feel pressured, guilted, or rushed into this.
  3. We can talk about hard topics without it turning into a fight.
  4. I could hear "no" or "not yet" from my partner without sulking.
  5. I'm not hoping the lifestyle will fix a problem in our relationship.

Use the lower of your two scores (out of 10):

  • 8–10: Sounds like you're ready to keep exploring. 🍍
  • 5–7: Keep talking. Good stuff, a few soft spots.
  • 0–4: Foundation first. That's not "never," it's "not yet."

Scored a 0 on #1 or #2? Then it's "not yet," whatever the total. Pressure overrides points. Want the full 15-question quiz, plus worksheets? Grab the free sample below.

Download the free sample (PDF) Get it on Kindle, $4.99 Get the Paperback ($9.99)

The free sample includes the full "Are We Ready?" quiz and the Quick-Start Checklist.

Be kind, be safe, and keep your pineapples upside down. IYKYK. 🍍

For adults 18+. For educational purposes only; not medical, legal, or mental health advice. Questions? Find us at swollyswag.com.